While hanging out with friends last night, discussion turned to talk about some acquanitances who were recently married. Apparently this couple "changed" quite drastically in personality once married -- they're more serious, less likely to laugh at jokes, don't hang out with their friends often. This isn't the first time I've heard this scenario. It's happened to others we know. Sadly, my husband voiced concern before our marriage that I would change, becoming some nasty shrew.
But I just can't wrap my mind around this phenomenon. How does exchanging vows and rings change one's personality?? There isn't anything in the "code of marriage" that flips a mental switch in the bride and groom. Yeah, I get that *something* changes -- I feel a little more mature, or at least that I *should* be anyway. But I'm me. My husband is still himself. We're the same people we were when we met six years ago.
It's making me feel a lot more self-conscious of how our single friends perceive us now, like they're watching for any noticeable change in us now that we're legally binded. If anyone can explain this phenomenon, or has a similar story, leave a comment.
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